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Linda Arbiter, LMFT: Posted on Monday, January 16, 2012 4:50 PM
COMMUNICATION TOOLS THE FEEDBACK WHEEL Effective communication takes practice and patience. Improving communication and emotinal intelligence inreases ones ability to be more relational with loved ones, co-workers and friends. The feedback wheel will help you speak in "I" statements, to present your side of the disagreement in respectful way, to stay focused on a particular behvavior and take full responsibity for your thoughts, feelings and behaviors without blaming, name calling, losing your temper or withdrawing. Ok, so how does it work: 1. start by stating, "I have something I need to address with you, Is this a good time for you?" (if the answer is "no", ask for a committment to a time). 2. Open with a gift...Start by stating something positive or something that shows you care. 3. describe the behavior "When You......(report the behavior precisely, as if you were a video recorder on playback -- no opinions here!) 4. State what you made up about what you saw aor heard 5. State how this made you feel (mad, sad, glad, hurt, afraid, ashamed or guilty) 6. State what you need from your partner 7. Ask what you can do to help ensure you get what you need 8. STAY OUT OF THE OUTCOME! Ok, so what does this look like? "Hi Honey, I have something I want to discuss with you. Is this a good time? ("No, can't you see I'm in the middle of the football playoffs") Will you please let me know when its over so I can talk to you. ("OK") later~~~ Thanks so much for remembering that i wanted to talk to you. I really apreciate that your heard me.(2) Last month I asked you to stop using your credit card. I just got the credit card statement and there are several new charges on it. (3) When I see new charges on the statement, I make up that you either are ignoring me or you aren't committed to our new budget.(4) I feel hurt and scared.(5) I need you to stick to your agreement and not use the credit card in the future. (6) How can I help you do this? (7) If your partner agrees to your request say "Thank You", if not, ask "how can we compromise". |
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Linda Arbiter, MFT: Posted on Tuesday, October 25, 2011 9:17 PM
Have you ever lost control of your emotions and acted in a way that you came to regret? Do you promise yourself that you will not lose control the next time you are stressed out? Anger management classes teach skills to help you become aware of your emotions and to help you navigate frustrating, stressful situations. Sherman Oaks Anger Management classes will teach you to understand your inner process, the emotional triggers that lead to angry reactions, and teach you coping skills to effectively deal with stressful circumstances. You will gain emotional intelligence, improve stress management skills, build healthy communication styles, enhance relationships with friends, colleagues and loved ones and improve your self esteem.
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Linda Arbiter, MFT, CAMF: Posted on Friday, August 26, 2011 7:46 AM
SHERMAN OAKS ANGER MANAGEMENT INCLUDES ASSESSMENTS FOR DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, PTSD AND ADHD in the initial assessment…. At Sherman Oaks Anger Management, our Psychotherapists and Certified Anger Management Facilitators have noticed that frequently persons who experience problems in self-control/anger management are also likely to suffer from depression. Depression is often masked by anger. Depression often appears as irritability, impatience, intolerance or violent outbursts (both verbally or physically). Sherman Oaks Anger Management routinely administers pre- and post- assessments to all clients. These assessments are based on emotional intelligence (knowledge of self-awareness, self-control, social awareness and relationship management). At Sherman Oaks Anger Management, in addition to conducting the pre- and post- assessment for emotional intelligence, we also include a screening for depression, anxiety, PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and ADHD. The assessment is performed by a licensed mental health professional. 818 754-4754 |
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Linda Arbiter, MFT,CAMF: Posted on Saturday, May 28, 2011 4:03 PM
Anger Management has become a "buzz" word. I have my Google Alerts, set to send me an email when an article about Anger Management appears in the news. Guess what? I get several email alerts daily! So how do you decide which Anger Management class to take? I have posted some questions to ask when looking for an anger management class: - Which anger management curriculum is used? Sherman Oak Anger Management uses the Anderson and Anderson model, highly acclaimed, evidenced based and the only model recognized by the LA Courts.
- Are your instructors all "certified" anger managment facilitators?At Sherman Oaks Anger Management, all of our coaches are certified by Anderson and Anderson. They have all passed extensive training in the curriculum, teaching strategies and group facilitation skills.
- Do you use a mixture of lecture, group discussion and multi-media presentations to teach anger management curriculum?Sherman Oaks Anger Management uses a variety of teaching straegies to accomodate all kinds of learning needs. We intermix videos, role play, written assignments, group discussion with lecture and practice.
- What is the total cost for the assessment, the workbook and the classes?At Sherman Oaks Anger Management, individual classes are $20.00 each. Packages with discounts up to 15% are available for multiple class purchases. All clients receive an extensive anger profile prior to beginning classes and again at the end of thier series of classes. The use of pre-and post assessments documents changes in anger management strategies.
- What is Executive Coaching? Executive Coaching is private instruction taught by a licensed mental health professional. In one on one coaching sessions, material can be presented in depth, quickly and privately. When appropriate, individual psychotherapy can be included.
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Posted on Sunday, May 01, 2011 2:26 PM
The Heavy
Costs of Anger
If you are
like most people, you are probably intelligent and have good skills for
resolving conflict and difficulties – when you are notangry. After you have cooled down, you can calmy
identify and agree that you did not function at your best while in a state of rage.
While anger
may help in some situations, it is rarely helpful in making positive change or
solving conflicts. Although anger is a
normal human emotion, it is hardly the most useful for solving problems. Anger
often leads to aggression. Aggression
can be seen in many forms of violence, including road rage, desk rage, spousal
abuse, child abuse , animal abuse, elder abuse and violence between
children. The evening news is filled
with examples. While anger does not
automatically lead to aggression, it often does. It is frequently a blueprint for
violence.
For many of you, who may not
have considered addressing this issue on your own, Anger Management classes may well be an
opportunity to improve your ability to manage intense emotions and to practice healthy styles of communication.
Adapted from Gaining
Control of Ourselves, pgs. 21-23.
Anderson and Anderson 2005. Gaining
Control of Ourselves is the workbook used to support material taught in our
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